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xenia, zeniaA,
Here’s something that you might find relevant for the times you are growing through.
You youngsters are a resilient and tough generation….
You are in your twenties or thereabouts…. so maybe this is for you…
Thoughts … musings…. wonderings about the surprises that life throws your way…
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing
that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure
and wonder where you will be in a year or two,
but then get scared
because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing
that people are selfish and that, maybe,
those friends that you thought you were so close to
aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met,
and the people you have lost touch with
are some of the most important ones.
What you don’t recognize is
that they are realizing that too,
and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere,
but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job…
and it is not even close to
what you thought you would be doing,
or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing
that you are going to have to start at the bottom
and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing
and find yourself judging more than usual
because suddenly you realize
that you have certain boundaries in your life
and are constantly adding things to your list of
what is acceptable and what isn’t.
One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy
and you try and cling on to the past with dear life,
but soon realize that the past
is drifting further and further away,
and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder
how someone you loved could do such damage to you.
Or you lie in bed and wonder why
you can’t meet anyone decent enough
that you want to get to know better.
Or maybe you love someone
but love someone else too
and cannot figure out why you’re doing this
because you know that you aren’t a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups
start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot
starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over,
and talk with your friends about the same topics
because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future
and making a life for yourself…
and while winning the race would be great,
right now you’d just like to be a contender!
You are in your best of times and the worst of times,
trying as hard as you can
to figure this whole thing out.
It is called the “Quarter-life Crisis.”
You could make it the “Quarter-life Challenge” !
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You will survive this, for sure… and even more than that! You will come out right on top!
And this will help you all the more through the challenges of “mid-life” and “old” that will come soon enough.
The best is yet to happen. You can make it happen. Start looking forward to that !
It is not a question of just being positive or negative.
It is a question of being real!
“Senior citizen” that I am now, I went through much of all this myself but I did not know at that time what I was going through and what I had to be doing.
Thankfully things have turned out well enough for me, so no regrets….
Life otherwise goes on quite happily for me even as Xavier’s continues to be a way of life!
And yes, for me too, the best is yet to happen.
So I continue looking forward…..
You do that too!
See you whenever…
Take care. Love, Terry